My just turned three-year old was invited this past weekend to a chauffeured birthday party to get hair, makeup and nails done at a little girls spa and boutique called Sassy Katz. It was actually Sugar's friend and her older sister who was turning five celebrating their birthdays together.I was very hesitant to let Sugar attend it all seemed a little over the top to me...but after much thought and a little rearranging of the plans I let Sugar attend.
Because really, what little girl doesn't love to dress up like a princess and wear makeup?
And, I'm not going to get jealous just because the first time I rode in a limo was on my 21st birthday and my first real spa experience was a few days before my wedding...I'm just saying, I'm not getting jealous. :)
So I called the mom to RSVP and kindly let her know that Sugar (my 3 year old!) would not be dropped off at her house, to ride in a limo, with a bunch of strangers, for 30 minutes to the boutique.
We agreed that I would drive Sugar to the boutique and participate in the girly things that were about to take place over the next two hours. Since we were the first ones to arrive at the party, Sugar got to see the limo pull up and all the girls come out.
The next two hours were a little girls heaven...Sugar kept saying, "Mama, I want mine painted pink!" So that is what she got...pink fingernails, a fancy hairdo (I'll still never know how they got it pulled up) and a fancy dress. There was lots of stage posing, dancing, and singing. Bottom line, the girls had a blast.
After they each made there own glitter soap it was time to leave. I decided since I got to know the parents, grandparents and other girls that Sugar could ride home in the limo if she wanted to. I didn't even get the question out before Sugar said, "Mama, come on it's time to go in the limo!"
With me in complete shock, Sugar loaded up in the limo without hesitation with the rest of the girls. So I jumped in my car and followed the limo all the way back to the party. Meanwhile thinking what have I started? I think I just lost my little girl. Second guessing myself that maybe it was the wrong decision...
After I met them back at the house, I grabbed my dolled up little girl and carried her back to the car to buckle her up in her car seat.
Then not a second later she said, "Mama, I want my binky, blankie and sippy".
YES I thought...I haven't lost her yet.
7 comments:
It is so hard raising little girls in our world, isn't it?! I wish there was a handbook that said in black and white "Let them do this, Don't let them do that." I wouldn't spend so much time analyzing all of my decisions if that were the case.
She looks cute, she's still your baby, and you're a good mama!
(Off topic, I'm glad you found me again, Sorry to not respond but we are just now coming through a nasty bout of the flu that didn't leave me with much computer time.)
Oh, and I also meant to say "My WORD that child looks like you!" Good thing that's a compliment! :D
Wow. Tough decisions. She looks like she had so much fun.
She looks adorable. It never ceases to amaze me how those "girly" things speak to the feminine heart, no matter what age we may be!
She looks so cute! It sure looks like she had a blast and I bet sissy was sad that she couldn't go. Don't second guess... you're a great mama!!
Sounds like a fun day for your little princess...it's just the beginning! :)
How sad that you choose to dress your three and six year olds like mature adults and put on make up like that of a loose woman.
Your heart told you the right thing. God laid the truth in your heart and you ignored Him.
As the father of 7 girls I beg you to reconsider ever letting your three year old or your six year old ride in a vehicle with no seat belts. This is actually a crime and child neglect if done on purpose.
You do not strike me as the type of person who would do this on purpose. But you made a very poor choice by putting your children at risk.
Many people would look at your beautiful children and think unpure thoughts.
They are precious maidens that deserve nothing but protection from these sick people. It seems that your three year old showed you this by asking you for security items because her mother had failed to provide that security.
Did you ask your husband for his guidance?
You should ask your children and your husband for forgiveness and explain your weakness was because you love your children and want them to be happy. But explain that they are gifts from God not to be displayed in what might wrongly be considered as adults and that they should have been able to count on you to give them that guidance and to include their father in that decision making.
Also, PLEASE remove this photo of your child. I asked my 5 adult daughters and 3 adult sons who all have children what they thought. They understood your situation. My sons are all Princeton Law grads in practice. Out of 14 grand daughters, 8 children, and the small input of six grand sons and the remaining three children at home, and my wife of many years all agreed. You did something understandable in todays world of sexualized children and rushing our children out into the world. But being a child of God you should only allow your husband to be your authority after the Lord.
May God bless and protect all of you.
Husband to a woman above rubies, father to 9 Maidens and 4 future and current Patriarchs of service.
onlyguyin5@hotmail.com
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